In Spain we have this saying "Cría cuervos y te sacarán los ojos"
I am taking care of my almost 5 year olds twins and I'm constantly in awe of their disdain and total lack of compassion for me. It is brutal :-D
On the other hand their love it is awesome. It is really a toxic relationship.
Nobody needs to procreate, to raise a child is amazing and complicated, we live in a system that doesn't facilitate care. It has to be a choice and a meditated one.And children need other adults that there are not their parents to take care of them, we need community, all of us.
I had to ask Google to translate that saying for me - I love it! Though I like crows a lot...
Ah, I was devastated the first time my daughter said, "I hate you" to me. It was a regular occurence from toddlerhood into her teen years (it would pop out whenever I had the audacity to tell her "no"). It was indeed difficult to retain my patience. But fear not, they do grow up. She finally apologized to me a couple years ago, which was both unexpected and sweet - apparently she still felt guilty (she's around 40 now!).
I remember a decade ago (Or two or three? Time goes by too fast to keep count!), people used to say that it took a village to raise a child. At least here in the States, the sentiment didn't go much further than lip service... It would be fantastic if kids had lots of unrelated aunties and uncles helping out! Good luck to you!
Thanks for the good wishes, we are enjoying a lot the experience even when we are exhausted.
I thanked my parents for their love and my upbringing when I was in my 30's and I continue doing it now that I'm taking care of my children.
They are enjoying a lot being grandparents, we live in different places but all the gramps helped a lot when my babies where little, they slept on our couch more than we would wished! I do cherish their relationship with my children and we are trying to grow this village to raise them in our neighbourhood . It is so difficult but there are many families who recognize this need and are willing to try to build a strong net!
My parents gave me this extended group of unrelated aunties, even sisters, and I'm so grateful for that! We used to be a more community focused society, now it is more difficult but there are people willing to recover the good things of the past! Thanks for your kind comment!!!
I happen to love hanging out with kids. I'm a natural-born care-giver (I have experience at both ends of the life cycle). I'm also able to grow fruit and veggies, bake bread, haul 40 pound hay bales, and corral donkeys, among other things (my darling hubby does the cooking and laundry, btw). To each his or her or their own, and viva la difference! 😎
Babysitting other people's children effectively neutered any maternal instinct I may have had. The wage I made was low but the learning experience was priceless. Some of us just prefer to be Cat Moms.
I know, right? It's a pity Cat Moms aren't more visible in public. Kid Moms can be seen at playgrounds where they do their bonding, swap recipes and make other Kid Moms feel bad about their parenting... We should unite at cat shelters!
Cat moms are unseen largely because Cats don’t leave their home. Maybe we can have some kind of a Cat Mom meeting that the cats participate in spiritually from afar? Pretty sure they can astral project….
Visiting friends with kids should be listed as birth control!
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In Spain we have this saying "Cría cuervos y te sacarán los ojos"
I am taking care of my almost 5 year olds twins and I'm constantly in awe of their disdain and total lack of compassion for me. It is brutal :-D
On the other hand their love it is awesome. It is really a toxic relationship.
Nobody needs to procreate, to raise a child is amazing and complicated, we live in a system that doesn't facilitate care. It has to be a choice and a meditated one.And children need other adults that there are not their parents to take care of them, we need community, all of us.
I had to ask Google to translate that saying for me - I love it! Though I like crows a lot...
Ah, I was devastated the first time my daughter said, "I hate you" to me. It was a regular occurence from toddlerhood into her teen years (it would pop out whenever I had the audacity to tell her "no"). It was indeed difficult to retain my patience. But fear not, they do grow up. She finally apologized to me a couple years ago, which was both unexpected and sweet - apparently she still felt guilty (she's around 40 now!).
I remember a decade ago (Or two or three? Time goes by too fast to keep count!), people used to say that it took a village to raise a child. At least here in the States, the sentiment didn't go much further than lip service... It would be fantastic if kids had lots of unrelated aunties and uncles helping out! Good luck to you!
I forgot to translate the idiom! :-D
Thanks for the good wishes, we are enjoying a lot the experience even when we are exhausted.
I thanked my parents for their love and my upbringing when I was in my 30's and I continue doing it now that I'm taking care of my children.
They are enjoying a lot being grandparents, we live in different places but all the gramps helped a lot when my babies where little, they slept on our couch more than we would wished! I do cherish their relationship with my children and we are trying to grow this village to raise them in our neighbourhood . It is so difficult but there are many families who recognize this need and are willing to try to build a strong net!
My parents gave me this extended group of unrelated aunties, even sisters, and I'm so grateful for that! We used to be a more community focused society, now it is more difficult but there are people willing to recover the good things of the past! Thanks for your kind comment!!!
You are most welcome, I send good wishes to you and your family!
I happen to love hanging out with kids. I'm a natural-born care-giver (I have experience at both ends of the life cycle). I'm also able to grow fruit and veggies, bake bread, haul 40 pound hay bales, and corral donkeys, among other things (my darling hubby does the cooking and laundry, btw). To each his or her or their own, and viva la difference! 😎
Babysitting other people's children effectively neutered any maternal instinct I may have had. The wage I made was low but the learning experience was priceless. Some of us just prefer to be Cat Moms.
I know, right? It's a pity Cat Moms aren't more visible in public. Kid Moms can be seen at playgrounds where they do their bonding, swap recipes and make other Kid Moms feel bad about their parenting... We should unite at cat shelters!
Cat moms are unseen largely because Cats don’t leave their home. Maybe we can have some kind of a Cat Mom meeting that the cats participate in spiritually from afar? Pretty sure they can astral project….
Great post Margreet . I know some that feel that way now .Hugs and peace to all